Fourth Week Evaluation

Four weeks later and significant improvement in my being and self-management skill continues. As of the third week I had come to the point where I realized just how well I had began doing with my self-improvement. In my fourth week something happened that put me to the test again. As I had previously mentioned in my last post, there was someone I once had a strong and long relationship with that had ended quite negatively with words unsaid. I decided to take a different approach then my usual and ignore the whole situation instead of attempting to contact the person and lash out. But this last week, that person contacted me instead. I was in a state of shock because I definitely did not see it coming. Most importantly, I remembered my self-managing goal and did not react right away saying the first thing that came to my head (although I really wanted to), I just read the text, ignored it and left it at that for a while. I went on that week to reading an article by Robert Goffee and Gareth Jones named Why Should Anyone Be Led by You? (a part of the Harvard Business Review's 10 Must Reads on Leadership) and there is an idea talked about that says to dare to be different and express your uniqueness, as well as another one that says show you are human by selectively revealing your weaknesses. I thought about these ideas long and hard as well as that text message. It then came to me that now that I was improving myself and in a better state of mind and life in general, that I did not want to live with a grudge against this person. Most people would say to leave it alone, that it is not worth my time and/or that that person does not deserve my attention. However, reading the article it made me think otherwise and that I should make a different approach. So, I replied to the text with caution. Basically, we decided on meeting up and having a conversation in person that was way overdue. Like I said, many words were left unsaid and that was very unsettling for me. Replying to the text did show a slight sign of weakness from my part, but it is for the best. I am human and have feelings and I will act upon them without forgetting to be cautious about it and retain my self-managing goal. Most importantly, it's just to continue to have this sense of peacefulness in my life, as it turned out to be a blessing in disguise for me to go through such a negative event. Below is a video featuring Robert Goffee and Gareth Jones themselves on the topic.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=npCokAAOmHs